I will be away from my blog next week. I’ll resume blogging on July 9.
I will be away from my blog next week. I’ll resume blogging on July 9.
After Wednesday’s Supreme Court ruling invalidating a key section of the Defense of Marriage Act, married same-sex couples will be eligible for the same federal benefits as heterosexual married couples.
This decision coincidentally comes during Pride Week in Minneapolis. This weekend, June 29-30, Loring Park will host the Twin Cities Pride Festival. There will be a parade, vendors and a new wedding showcase. As of August 1, gay couples in Minnesota can wed legally.
The Wedding Showcase will be an exciting, first-ever event with wedding vendors, a flower display and a a flash mob. Fabulous Function owner Julie Lyford and Master of Ceremonies and Wedding Entertainer Bill Hermann are sponsors as well as Lavender Magazine.
Go to https://www.tcpride.org for more information.
On the same subject, a wonderfully creative and humorous book is Retrieving Isaac & Jason by Elliott and Kenneth Flies. The story is about the adoption journey of Elliott and his partner Randy. They are a same-sex couple who adopted their sons from south-east Asia. The story is written from the perspective of their dog, Kai, a yellow lab retriever.
The book gives insight into adoption laws and the struggles to become a family.
Go to www.RetrievingIsaacandJason.com for more information.
First, let me say the Lady makes great macaroni and cheese!
OK, now that I have that out of my system … let’s move on.
Paula Deen is having a bad day, week, and month. After a deposition where she admitted to uttering the n-word and using racial epithets, Deen was let go from The Food Network and Smithfield. QVC is monitoring the situation.
The situation continues to get worse for Deen. As a public relations professional, my opinion is crisis management is all about honestly. I think the entire situation could have been avoided if she came out and told her story. The following are ways in which I would handle Deen’s situation.
1. Always, always be honest. Take a tip from Tylenol. When they discovered people were being poisoned, they came out and were honest about the situation. They also created child-proof caps. In Deen’s situation, she should come out ahead of the story. Tell your sponsors what you are going through and develop a consistent message detailing what you will say and what you will not.
2. Do not cancel media. One, they will not want to have you back. You need to be honest with them in the good times and the bad. Two, you become a story. Lauer mentioned the cancellation on-air and as a result, in my opinion, contributed to her firing.
3. Limit how much social media you use when in crisis. This is a very controversial opinion but I think when in crisis there should be one message coming from one source. If one release a message on Facebook, twitter, YouTube and in a press release, and all the messages are different, then each has different interpretation. Pick a format and stick with it.
4. Make your message short and clear. Deen was clearly out of sorts, tired and came off very vulnerable in her YouTube messages. We are all human and have bad days. When you have those issues, take a breath and release a statement when you have clearly thought of your position.
5. Lastly, take a break. Get your house in order and come back stronger in the next 6 months to a year. Americans have very, very short memories. Our country is filled with major comebacks: Robert Downey, Jr., Roman Polanski, and even President Bill Clinton.
See you next week!
Every day I have two or three app I use. They are go-to apps that make my life easier, others are where I receive my news and a few are just for fun.
Apps that make my life easier: They help with weight loss, sleep and relaxation.
1. Weight Watchers-I can’t say enough about this app. It changed my life. It helped me understand food and what is healthy.
2. Sleep Pillow-If I can’t sleep I turn on this app and I can hear birds, streams, thunderstorms or spa music. I’m asleep in an instant.
3. Hotel Tonight-If you need to find a hotel quickly, this app is the best. They negotiate with hotels in your local area to get the best deals.
1. USA Today-Don’t ask me how they do it but this app is free and updated hourly. I don’t need to actual paper and it is better than the newspaper because they have the latest information.
2. TMZ-If I need a gossip update I go to TMZ. Sometimes the stories are about obscure celebrities but sometimes they break major news like the death of Michael Jackson.
3. AWS-This stands for All Women Stalk. I discovered it a few months ago and am addicted. It is basically lists of everything. If one wants to know how to use coconut oil or how the best summer reads-just search and a list will pop up.
4. Zite-This app is a newsroom. One can list a topic and the app will search for stories having to do with that topic.
1. Kindle-Download this for free on any ipad/iphone and read anything, anywhere.
2. Urban Spoon-An app for finding the best local restaurants.
3. Pandora-A free streaming music site.
4. TiVo-Record a show from anywhere in your home with this app.
5. Any library app-your local area library will have a free app to put any book on hold.
6. Flixster-Find reviews for any movie in your area.
7. Pop Sugar-News stories about topics such as Beauty, Celebrities, Fashion, Food and Home
8. EW Must List- A list of Entertainment Weekly’s top 10 popular culture programs.
9. Fast Food-Get listings of calorie counts for every popular fast food chain.
10. Book Wall-a new app for me. One can choose categories and get a new book you will love.
I’m going to continue my weight loss conversation today and I’m focusing on the mental aspect. When I decided to lose weight, I knew I needed to do it to be healthy. What took me by surprise was the mental aspect of weight loss.
People started to stare and comment every time I saw them. Anyone who knew me before the weight loss commented immediately. I’m fine with them commenting but it is very surprising because our culture is very weight conscious. No matter how many times one hears about beauty being on the inside, the comments after weight loss are always about looks.
Weight loss affects a person in other ways as well. It changes how a person feels about themselves or even sees themselves. For example, I was always heavy. I’m sure my heaviest tipped the scales at 230/240. It was a struggle every day to see myself in a positive way but I forged ahead.
After weight loss people see you as a thin person who seems to have all the answers. The best way to lose weight, the best clothes to buy or even the best makeup and hair products.
Here is the secret: We don’t know any better than anyone else. We are really just trying to figure out who we are and how to deal with the new body. Sometimes I would sit down and think, “How do I not lose who I was before?”
Weight loss is an interesting experience. It is filled with emotion, physical endurance, willpower and sometimes a lot of guilt.
We will come out with confidence and self-esteem!
On April 21, 2012, my life changed.
That was the day I hit rock bottom. I needed to lose weight. I remember the exact moment. I was at a friend’s wedding and at the reception couples were dancing with their friends, husbands and wives. Guests old and young were in the arms of the man or woman they loved.
I was a wall flower and could not wait to go home.
I was embarrassed and thought everyone was looking at me and thinking, “What is wrong with her?”
I was thinking that myself but a stronger voice came through. It said, “I am tired of being on the outside looking in. I deserve love and will work to get it.”
The next day my sister and I went on a cruise. That voice and feeling came back. I did not have anyone to dance with or go see a show.
I was lonely.
I came home and started to lose weight to improve my self esteem.
I joined a weight loss program and started to exercise.
As of yesterday, I have lost 53 pounds and am engaged to be married. We can all lose weight and change our lives.
Here is what I learned and how I did it.
1. I decided this was not a diet. I repeat this is not a diet. This is truly a lifestyle change.
Now, I love to eat. I was raised with meat and potatoes, dessert every night and 2 percent milk. My grandmother cooked from scratch with real sugar, salt and fat.
I needed to change my attitude toward food. I learned to eat fruits and vegetables as well as how to read nutrition information.
2. I learned how many calories I needed in a day. In the past, I had no idea. I’m sure I was eating 2-4,000 calories per day. Now, I know I need 1600 to 2,000 to be at a healthy weight.
3. Do it to be healthy. Do not do it to get married, get a better job, or to buy better clothing. They are all by-products of weight loss but do it because it feels good to be healthy.
4. Track your food. Every day I track everything I eat. Even if I fall off the wagon.
5. Make exercise your routine. I work out at least 5 times per week for 30 minutes. I also use weights when I work out.
6. Find foods that fill you up without high calorie content. Examples include: almond milk, egg whites, bananas, mushrooms, salmon.
7. Cut out soda. I still love diet Coke but my secret to weaning yourself off soda is club soda. It has no calories and all the fizz of soda.
My weight loss journey will last a lifetime. I have confidence in how I look and feel but the most important thing I have learned from this journey is to know what is healthy for you and that everyone can lose weight if they follow a routine.
Below are my before and after pictures:
After with my fiance.
Hollywood eats their young and forgets their old.
In my opinion, this is a very true statement. Through the years many celebrities have fallen victim to this statement: From Drew Barrymore to Marilyn Monroe to Judy Garland. Stars have very high highs and even lower lows. They may be Academy-Award winning actors one day and the next they are on the cover of tabloids for bankruptcy, drug overdoses or divorces.
Many stars overcome these issues. Drew Barrymore is a wonderful example of a person being able to overcome her family history of drug and alcohol abuse as well as self-destructive behavior. She is a new mom, wife and a prolific producer and director.
Other stars were victims of the Hollywood system. Stars such as Marilyn Monroe and Judy Garland died too soon and we lost their enormous talents. They fell victim to the expectations placed on them when in the limelight. No one is perfect and we want our stars to be perfect.
Yesterday the gossip sites and several TV shows were discussing Paris Jackson. Many are saying she attempted suicide. This is 15-year-old girl. She lost the only parent she knew in her father, Michael Jackson. She is reconnecting with her mother and getting used to being in the limelight.
This young girl has the weight of the world on her shoulders. She needs someone to talk with and she needs to be out of the limelight.
Maybe Michael had the right idea when he put masks on his kids when they went out in public.
I wish Paris well and I know she will overcome her troubles.
I started my blog a few months ago to pose a question: “What are the biggest pop culture stories and why do we care?”
I’m guilty of getting wrapped up in the latest celebrity feud, pregnancy, marriage just like anyone else, but it is amazing to me that we care.
Before the Internet age, a star had to have talent. They needed to sing, dance and act. They had to be beautiful. Movie studios like MGM spent millions to groom actresses like Ava Gardner and Joan Crawford. They were famous because they made millions for the studios and the audience could not take their eyes off them. They were from another world. Untouchable.
Today, celebrities are not stars. They are not known for being talented. They are simply gossip. The Kardashians are famous based on their antics. They push boundaries. They give birth on live TV and have over-the-top weddings that last 72 days.
So why do we care? In my opinion it is the preponderance of gossip web sites and the downfall of the newspaper gatekeepers. In the past, a journalist needed two or three sources before releasing a story. Now, a gossip site gets a tip and they print it. It is faster but is it better?
There is also a need to feed the gossip machine. Every day web sites need to be filled, 24 hour news stations need news stories and blogs need to be updated daily. This means people who are not necessarily famous or talented start to get press.
The reality show star is born. They are willing to feed the machine and as a result because of the amount of news they make, we being to care.
I yearn for the golden days of Hollywood where talent flowed. If you want to see real talent, check out Turner Classic Movies. Every day they show Fred Astaire dancing on air, Judy Garland singing like an angel and Cary Grant infusing class into every role he ever played.
See you Thursday!